Not cocky, just self- love.

The most common misconception associated with confidence is that people who obtain it are self-absorbed or narcissistic but no, it takes practice. It really does take practice; trial and error, you know. The moral of the story is, stop being intimidated or threatened by another persons confidence because you don't posses your own. The key is to build it. I get it, it's hard. its hard to not develop insecurities because were constantly comparing ourselves to other people with what they have and what we lack. Then again we have to understand that the roots of insecurity is comparison. People just in general have to stop comparing themselves to other people because what somebody else has doesn't necessarily mean that you're lacking it. Like there are so many factors and variables that make up self-confidence. It's just so subjective. That's why you shouldn't compare it. Because everybody is different, everybody is different. Everybody has a different opinion as to what beauty really is, but beauty is within.

It really just begins with loving yourself and accepting yourself. You are you, you are different.. Accept your flaws, embrace them, nurture them. Instead of criticizing yourself and feeding into your insecurities, why don't you take that same energy just to reverse them. To work on them, to better them. I constantly see girls who complain and who hate other girls for being like fit and skinny or whatever but if you're so unhappy with yourself, why don't you just go workout, dude? I just hate people who just sit back and judge other people but then complain about themselves like if you wanna really wanted to change you would, You have all the power to do, all the resources to do, so why don't you...?

It's just like the sky is the limit, anything is possible these day. You have the power to change yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.anything guys. Even me, I was never truly happy with myself until I started just loving myself and accepting myself and working towards my insecurities. These people think you have to be pretty or skinny or fucking have a big ass or big tits to like be accepted and to love yourself, no that's not true.

Fuck what people think, to be honest. Like as long as you love yourself you're happy with yourself and you embrace your flaws and you accept yourself for what you have and who you are...


Once you know yourself, nobody can use anything against you. Don't feel like you have to look a certain way to be loved or to be accepted or to be feel happy about yourself. Be fucking proud of yourself. Be proud of who you are. Own it. Just do what makes you feel good. Look the way you wanna look. Fuck what society thinks. Whatever makes you happy, go for it.

- Val Mercado, Snapchat Story 2016